I could be perfectly happy being single for the rest of my life.
In recent years I've always talked about never getting married. To me this was a lifestyle choice that could be just as fulfilling as having a spouse, but everybody always told me I was being ridiculous. They would tell me that I was being silly and in a little while I'd be eating my words. Some would even talk to me as if my decision conflicted with me being a Christian. Gradually I began to second guess myself. What if I was being a little outrageous? What if in order to be a good Christian and have a contented life I actually had to get married?
Coming to Walla Walla only made things worse...I mean come on...Western Wedding University? It's almost expected that once you're here you must begin the search for a 'special friend'. I actually began to feel a little depressed as I watched all the lovey couples flocking across campus (you may think 'flocking' is an exaggeration but it's not, I assure you). My life wasn't complete because I didn't have a boyfriend. I had let social pressure begin to mold my outlook on relationships.
Enough is enough.
I will not let societies beliefs about relationships ruin my time in college. Being single isn't a bad thing. I can be successful and satisfied with life without being in a relationship. I can live my life the way I want to without having to deal with the drama of a guy. I can do what I want and be independent.
I'm sorry if that sounds feminist but it's how I feel. Don't get me wrong, I'm not against marriage. In fact if it's God's will for my life for me to find a man then so be it. However, I will not force the issues because I do not need a man.
I need to be happy with me.
I need to be happy with who I am - with or without a guy.
Nothing more, nothing less.
I love this :) It gives me hope.
ReplyDeleteWell said!
ReplyDeleteI firmly believe God made us complete as individuals - we don't need someone else to make us complete. If you want to get married, it's just icing on the cake.
ReplyDeleteAlso, no need to apologize for sounding feminist. That's a good thing!
xo,
Stephanie
God Created us as relational beings, that is why your eyes are in front of you not on your head to only worship God, life itself is not to fulfill individuals dreams, cos happiness itself is not a guarantee, its to be a part of something greater than yourself, cos if it were everything will work the way you choose, i think inside every woman is a desire to have someone to care for them, and every man the desire to find someone to care for, also your life experiences tend to make us choose what we desire for only urself.
ReplyDeleteI hear yea Gal, i support you in that 100% am a guy and i really see no reason for marriage and my buddy's call me crazy.i love living free to go any where i feel like with no hinders or questioning me why am doing it.
ReplyDeleteThis is something I have only come to realize recently. I have been basing my contentedness on others; on my lack of finding a woman. But my happiness does not depend on others, it depends on myself. This may go against what society tells us, but it's the truth. We have to train ourselves to not take society so seriously. I've even stopped listening to my girl-crazy Billy Joel records (let's see how long that can last)!
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